Where to start...?

         For this being my first entry to my blog, I want to start by sharing why I am interested in being Christian and Single in today's society and give some background on me and my dating experiences. I was raised in the church but as I got older and started wanting to date I struggled with acceptance. Acceptance in the church and acceptance with the individuals in my circle (teens). We all know how much peer pressure can come with being a teen. So what did I do? I struggled. I was very involved in the church singing,dancing, teaching. But at school I wanted to be accepted so badly I did what everyone else did just to be ACCEPTED. Little did I know that being accepted would make me feel so bad. Some of you may know what I am talking about, that conviction you get when you do things that are not of Christ. So as I got older, I struggled as well but my struggle was different this time. As I started to become my own person (not caring to be accepted) I started finding that people wanted me to be what I was not what I had transformed into. So that was my issue with dating as an "adult" I was not allowed to be myself. If I wasn't doing what all the other women were doing I was getting played. So I dated a few men (not seriously just going out) and found that I could no longer deny myself and who I was. So as I started to indulge myself in church and christian activities, they became threatened and suddenly I was too much for them. I wasn't worldly enough for them. Which personally I found upsetting then (but funny now) I decided just to be alone. So for a while I was me myself and I hanging with my girls or just being home.

       Until I met the man I have been married to for the last 20 months. With him I was able to be who I had transformed into and found that he was like me! Struggling to find a balance between dating and being a Christian. HOWEVER, as we dated for 3 years we struggled with Christian things to do. We both went to church but where else could we go? The Club was out,and so was staying in the house all the time.We went bowling, the movies, out to eat (which all got expensive very quickly LOL). But, there was only so much bowling, movies, and eating out we could do.
         This is where I see a lot of individuals struggle. Not only do they struggle with finding someone who will accept them for who they are, can go out and have a great time with. But when they do find that someone where can they go that is not a club and super expensive.  So this is where this blog and my interest in dating in today's society comes in. I want people to be bold Christians and Singles and freely discuss some issues they find in dating. Step 1 to anything is admitting there is an issue. Putting it out there and then maybe just maybe it can be fixed.